Guest Post: Your Divorced, Now What? How to Move Forward With Life By Robert A Jenkins

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Your Divorced, Now What? How to Move Forward With Life
By Robert A Jenkins

Well here you sit a divorced person, you may feel that your life is over. That is the bad news, the good news is that you have a chance to rebuild your life. This is not the end of something, it is a chance at a new beginning. Maybe you waited to finish your degree to put your marriage first, now is the best time to finish that degree and open new doors in your life. While this may be a sad time, there is in the end the potential for so much good to come from this new beginning. The following are a few ways that you can move forward with your life.

Take up a new hobby. This is a great time to try your hand at something new and exciting that you have never done before. Take up dancing, knitting or a sport that you have been dying to try but thought your marriage would not allow for that to be in your life. This is a good chance to meet new people and to form new bonds as well. You may even meet someone that has the same interests as you do.

Speaking of meeting new people, this is a chance for you to see what options are out there for you. If the marriage was a long one, then you may be a little clumsy in getting back into the dating scene. Take those small first steps and let you get your feet wet before you dive all in. there are many groups that offer support to recently divorced people and even dating sites that have people just like you that will allow you to find someone else in your life. The important part is that you do not give up and forget to live your life.

Now if you are that desperate to rekindle the fire you and your ex had, then you can go and try to reconcile with them. This is something that you will have to feel out for yourself. Many times a person will go and try to reconcile and find that the door to that has been closed and locked up tight. Others may have a little better luck in the fact that their ex was wanting to reconcile as well. This is just a matter of time and feeling things out. The other thing that you will want to do is to rebuild your life.

Chances are that the divorce took its toll on your finances. You had a nest egg saved back but you had to spend that just to get through the divorce. Now you have to rebuild this nest egg and you are having to do it all by yourself this time. This can be a positive or negative thing depending on how well the ex spouse of your managed money. Take an inventory of what you do and don't have left in finances and determine what you need to do to get back the nest egg you had set aside. This can be a tougher thing to accomplish than what most people are even aware of. It is not until the dust settles from the divorce that they discover that they are in worse financial shape than what they thought.

You will more than likely have lost friends during this was well. It will be important that you reach out to these friends and try to reconnect with them. This can be sometimes a difficult thing as these friends will want to play sides and you may not be on the winning side of this decision. If you find that you have friends that you have lost, then you need to make sure that you look for new friends from other areas and that have the same interests that you do.

Now could be the perfect time to take that vacation that you have always been wanting to take. You are free now and this will also allow you the chance to get away from the stress that you have been dealing with during the divorce. It is often said that a little time away from a situation will be the best thing for a person and allow them the chance to feel like they have been recharged. Don't go on vacation to hook up with someone, this is a bad idea as you will more than likely not be past the emotional damage that took place during the divorce. If you have the chance to have an encounter with someone, then go slow and feel things out.

If you have been seeing a therapist before and during the divorce, then continue to see them and allow them to help you through what will be a very tough time for you. The words that the therapist will be able to offer will be very helpful as they can get you past the tough spots and show you how you will recover from this devastating event in your life. This will be a great way to get your thoughts and feeling out and express how the divorce is affecting you. Sometimes the therapist will be all you need to feel like you have a friend that is on your side and interested in helping you to deal with the pain of a divorce.

Looking back at all of this advice, you will be able to see that there is a world out there that goes past the relationship that you just lost. Nobody said that getting past the pain of a divorce is easy, but with a strong support group and getting out there after the divorce, you will be able to move on and remember that you at once had a life and get back to that time in your life. All of these tips and advice will be useful in moving on and answering the long lost question you have got divorced now what? All in all you will be okay and will survive if you remain strong.

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